This is a great discussion between Wayne Teasdale (author of The Mystic Heart) and Ken Wilber about how we relate to God and the nature of the dark night of the soul.
The dark night happens because the divine withdraws in order to force your self-will to dissolve. As Meister Eckhart said: “For God to get in the creature must get out.” In other words, the ego or false self must go. All your little projects and ideas about how you want to live your life have to go if you want enlightenment. Can you even say, “I want enlightenment”?!
Watch the whole series here.